Relationships are a common topic among... well... people. A friend recently blogged about "The One" posing questions that one should ask while in relationship:
- Does this person make me a better person?
- Am I a better person when they are in my life or worse?
- Does this person make me want to be a better person?
- What would my friends say?
- When I am with this person, do I draw nearer to God, or move further away?
- Do I believe in a sovereign God to guide my life and the life of my future mate?
- What are my standards for someone in a relationship with me?
- What does it look like for me to be cherished? And how do I truly cherish someone else?
- What is "good enough?"
- Is "good enough" enough for better or for worse?
- What if what I think is good turns out to be not-so-good later?
Are there questions we need to answer about OURSELVES before we can begin to expect to be in a healthy relationship?
- Am I looking for someone to "complete me" or am I whole on my own?
- What do I "bring to the table" in terms of the good, the bad, and the ugly?
- With MY FAULTS, can I measure up to be worth someone else's love?
- Will I spend the rest of my life apologizing for who I am (or who I'm not)?
- Am I lovable?
One more:
- Even once I've found whom I believe to be "that person," what if I'm not the BEST fit for them?
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4 comments:
Hey Laura,
Tried to comment a minute ago, and I don't think it went through...This is Julie G. from I.V. with you at ASU (if you're still scratching your head, visit my blog for a picture). I got to your blog from Lori H.'s blog! It's great to see how you're doing. You look fabulous, and I totally love the tat. Rock it, girl!
Hey, Laura. SWMBO & I just had our 25th anniversary, and I'm amazed every single day that she continues to put up with this broken-down, emotionally needy Latin teacher.
My favorite song about marriage is here:
http://stizzyocayce.blogspot.com/2008/02/do-you-love-me.html
Oh, and if you want to know the story of our very idiosyncratic "courtship" and how we've managed to keep things going, we'll have to sit down f2f and gab for a while (preferably over adult beverages). But we HAVE been asked to talk to our church's college group a couple of times. They think we're cute.
This past rumination is more about keeping a relationship going than about picking the right person, but it will give you an idea about where I come from on these matters.
And, yes, I do tend to use the computer a lot while I’m doing laundry.
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